At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

For a whore is a deep ditch; And a strange woman is a narrow pit. She also lieth in wait as for a prey, and increaseth the transgressors among men (KJV).

For a prostitute is a deep pit; an adulteress is a narrow well. She lies in wait like a robber and increases the traitors among mankind (ESV).

Proverbs 23:27–28

Scripture frequently describes sexual sin as a snare, and snares work because of the element of deception. A snare works because it doesn’t look like a snare that will work.

Two different kinds of immoral women are described here, and the hapless male involved is described in two different ways.

The first woman is the whore, the woman who gives a sexual encounter in exchange for money. The second woman is the adulteress, the one who is not a professional, but who is willing blow up marriages, whether it is hers or someone else’s. Both of these women are described as places where a man might fall. The whore is described as a deep ditch, or pit. The adulteress is described as a narrow pit or well.

These places where a man might fall are not marked with warning signs. Or we should rather say that the warning signs are posted in places like the book of Proverbs. Unless these words are taken to heart and memorized, they will not appear at the scene where the seduction is occurring.

The text says that at the scene, the nature of the pit or ditch or well is cleverly hidden. She lies in wait like a deadly predator stalks its prey. Often the man in such situations feels as though he is the dangerous one, he is the one taking the initiative, when in reality he is just the chump. He is the bird that the python ate. He is the prey. 

The fact that he is the victim of predatory behavior does not absolve him of responsibility for his actions, not a bit of it. The second way he is described is with terms like treacherous and traitorous. The man who resorts to prostitutes somehow believes that what he pays her is the only price he will pay, which is false. And the man who betrays his marriage covenant believes that he can still be an honest man, but he is not. He is lying, he is a traitor, he is treacherous. He shouldn’t be trusted with anything.

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At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

Seest thou a man diligent in his business? He shall stand before kings; He shall not stand before mean men (KJV).

Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men (ESV).

Proverbs 22:29

Scriptures teach that cream rises. Excellence excels, and craft competence will out. That is the basic principle.

But this proverb begins at the end of the business. In other words, we see the diligent man being finally honored for his accomplishment. He wins the award, he is recognized by the president, he performs for the rich and famous. All very satisfying.

So we see in the proverb that there is nothing inherently sinful about fame. It is a good thing when a king recognizes excellence, and we should never pretend that it is not a good thing. But there is an unmentioned qualification in this proverb. 

Where did the diligence come from? When the diligent man, when the skillful man, is finally honored, that honor is not given in obscurity. But more often than not the reason he is being honored is because he labored for a long time, and thanklessly, in obscurity. That is how a man usually achieves high levels of excellence. 

Those who are scrambling for the limelight, lusting after fame, are treating glory the way a redneck who just won the lottery would treat his newly-won riches. If you come into fame too quickly, or too easily, it is easy to fritter the whole thing away. But if you labor quietly in the shadows for years, you will get to levels of excellence that simply cry out for recognition. In other words, those who strive to find the short cut are playing a fool’s game. 

The camera hound will come to nothing, while the person who honed his craft in diligent solitude will find the cameras have come for him.

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At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

A foolish son is the calamity of his father: And the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.

Proverbs 19:13

Because we live in egalitarian times, we don’t really know what to do with the doctrine of sin. And because we don’t know what to do with sin, we don’t understand the fact that at the very beginning of human history, God established a foundational antithesis between the seed of the woman and the seed of the serpent (Gen. 3:15). Because of this antithesis, this natural antipathy, every generation sees a standing contrast between righteousness and unrighteousness, between wisdom and folly, between holiness and iniquity.

This means that things can go wrong anywhere, and this includes a man’s family or household. Our proverb says that a foolish son is a man’s calamity, and that an ornery wife is a constant drip drip drip. 

The Bible teaches that children are a blessing, and they should be received as such. But they are not an automatic blessing. The man who marries does well, but he is not blessed automatically. In other words, when great blessings go wrong, or when potential blessings fail to materialize, the effect is worse than the way it was before. It would better to have no sons than to have one foolish one, and it would be better to have one foolish son than five foolish sons. But people who make “family” the standard can’t understand this. No, the traditional family at its best is what it is because it is under a standard, that standard being the authority of God’s Word. 

So then, it would have been better to remain unmarried than to marry a shrew.

But because of our egalitarian times, any statement like this is taken (dishonestly) as an attack on women generally. But when Scripture says something blunt like this about foolish women, this is not an attack on wise women. How could it be? And the women who represent it as a “misogynistic” sentiment are—wait for it—the foolish women that Scripture warns us about. If a woman is a constant drip drip drip in online discussions, the effect is not calculated to make all the gents in that thread think something like, “Boy, I wish I was married to that.”

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At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the Lord; And that which he hath given will he pay him again.

Proverbs 19:17

We must always remember that we are dealing with proverbs, and not with axioms in geometry. To be precise, we want to make sure we understand what we are dealing with when we are talking about “the poor.” But before we rush off to say what this verse cannot mean, let us take care to understand what it does mean.

In the sense of this proverb, when someone is poor and in a pitiable condition, it is appropriate for a godly man to have pity on him. If someone takes pity on the poor man, and gives him sustenance, this is tantamount to having the Lord borrow money from you. If you give twenty dollars to a poor man, this is as though the Lord borrowed twenty from you. And what the Lord borrows, the Lord will always repay. This means that when you give to the poor in such circumstances, it is not good money after bad. It is not money down a rat hole. The Lord is a meticulous bookkeeper when it comes to matters of generosity. 

Scripture is clear that the giving of alms is a proper and righteous thing. The prayers of Cornelius were heard, in part, because he gave alms (Acts 10:4, 31). Jesus assumes that His followers were going to give alms (Matt. 6:3). The disciples of Christ are instructed to sell what they have in order to give alms (Luke 12:33).

But to ask who are “the poor” is not necessarily the same kind of thing as asking who your neighbor is, in an attempt to get off the hook (Luke 10:29). There are plenty of poor people, including in the book of Proverbs, that we are not supposed to subsidize. A little sleep, a little slumber, and the deacons’ fund will pick up the tab. But if a man is not willing to work, he shouldn’t eat (2 Thess. 3:10).

That said, our default settings should be on the side of generosity. 

“But whoso hath this world’s good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him? My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth” (1 John 3:17–18).

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At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: And their contentions are like the bars of a castle.

Proverbs 18:19

If you cross someone, or let them down, and they were a comparative stranger to you, there might be some level of disappointment—but it is not likely to crush you. This is the case even if the offense were maybe above average. But when someone close to you does it, the event is felt as more of a betrayal than anything else. And a betrayal cuts deeper than anything.

In this proverb we are not told if the offended brother is in the right with regard to the offense. If he was, and decides that he cannot trust you, he is simply being prudent if he moves out of range. You are not trustworthy, and so he will retreat behind strong city walls. And in such a case, it is likely that all the siege engines that you bring to bear are only going to make things worse.

But it is also possible that he is offended, and there are no grounds for the offense. You had a strong relationship, and all of a sudden (it seems) something went south. He took offense when there was no offense given. When this happens, you still have the problem described in the proverb—he has still retreated into his fortress. But now he is not in there defending himself, but rather is in there attacking and wronging you. Taking offense where none was given is a kind of passive/aggressive slander. The person does not accuse you of anything, but is acting as though he could if he wanted to. 

When inexplicable estrangements like this happen, the best place in Scripture to go in order to understand it would be James 4. Where do quarrels among you come from? If a chapter begins that way, then perhaps the answer is found within that chapter. 

And the answer is that in such cases, envy and jealous ambition is the culprit. And in the first scenario, it is likely the culprit as well, only this time it is outside the castle.

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