Raising children is not a duty which can be put on autopilot. This is especially true in a Christian community like ours. While there’s a great deal of likemindedness and similar standards, it is your calling as moms and dads to remain vigilant in the two-fold calling of training up your children in the way they should go and in driving out the folly that is bound up in their heart.

Parenting is like pouring a concrete slab for a new building. Without forms, you’ll end up with a useless and hardened blob. Think of the Word and the Body of Christ as the forms which give shape and boundary to the foundation you’re pouring with each child you are raising. But the forms will do no good if you do not pour the concrete of faithful nurture and instruction of your children. 

Many Christian parents assume that someone else will eventually pour the concrete of godly character into the forms. Then, as their children enter adulthood, parents are jarred to find that only a few uneven patches of gravel are in place.

So then, parents, be vigilant. Don’t assume that dropping your kids off for a playdate with another Christian family will have no potential pitfalls for your kids. Don’t assume that the neighbor kids will be wholesome influences on your kids. Don’t assume that others have the same entertainment standards you have. Even amongst your own children, don’t assume there are no follies which they can fall into. Coach them up before various life-events, and then review the game film. Always let them know that they can talk with you about anything that happens.

This then is the summons for parents. Vigilance is required, not paranoia. Responsibility is required, not communalism. Loving discipline is required, not absentminded indifference.

Ben Zornes – June 23, 2024

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“Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, For theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”

Christ gives a qualification here. Facing persecution for the sake of your ideology or your pet theological position or political activism or even because of a simple foolish decision—facing persecution for the sake of such things does not bring blessing in and of itself. It is only those persecuted for righteousness sake that are blessed. This reality ought to cause us to step back and think. Remember, Peter warns Christians, “Let none of you suffer as an evildoer (1 Peter 4:15). 

Many are deceived in this regard. Many believe they are on the “right side of history,” that their cause is righteous, that they even have God on their side. And in their self-deception, they believe that any persecution or pushback, is a sign of this fact. 

So, how do we know? How do we know that it is truly “for righteousness’ sake” that we suffer, that we face persecution?

The great Puritan Thomas Watson says that the “man who would suffer ‘for righteousness sake’ must himself be righteous.” And he gives three tests for how we might know that we are righteous and prepared to suffer for righteousness’ sake.

[1] A righteous person breathes after holiness. Do you desire and delight in holiness? Do you long for purity of mind and soul? Do you daily trample on the bellies of your lusts and put to death the misdeeds of your body that you might present yourself holy to God? 

[2] A righteous person is one who makes God’s grace his center. Can you say together with Paul that you are willing to suffer the loss of all things and count them as refuse if only you could gain Christ and be found in him? —That you might know him and the power of his resurrection, and share in his sufferings? Is Christ more valuable to you than all this world has to offer?

[3] A righteous person is one who values the jewel of a good conscience at a high rate. What value do you place on having a good or clean conscience? Does unconfessed sin eat away at your soul? Do you feel the heavy hand of God upon you when you are slow to confess? Do you value having nothing on your mind hindering your fellowship with God and neighbor? 

Are you ready to suffer persecution for righteousness sake? Are you prepared to face the fiery trials that await all true followers of Christ? 

Let us not be deceived. Let us look to our inheritance, an eternal kingdom for our own possession as coheirs with Christ and resolve today that we would be a righteous people—that we might be counted worthy to suffer for the sake of righteousness.

Zach Wilke – June 23, 2024

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Man has long been in search of the philosopher’s stone, that instrument with which you could turn base metals into gold. With a flick of the wrist, you’re a wealthy man. That may sound like falling into chocolate pie. But, let’s face it. If we were to lay hold on such a device, we would go full Smeagol before you could say my precious.

Proverbs 13:11 says, “Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: But he that gathereth by labour shall increase.” You may, indeed, gain something through being shallow, hollow, and vacuous. After all, people paid money for Taylor Swift’s last album. But whatever gains you receive from empty sorcery will turn to ashes. Judas got his thirty pieces of silver for his worthless plan. But he didn’t hold on to them very long.

If you would flourish like the green tree, then you must renounce all attempts at alchemy. You may think that alchemy is long gone. But this witchcraft is still with us. There’s parental alchemy, homemaking alchemy, educational alchemy, financial growth alchemy, physical fitness alchemy. This voodoo has many applications. In principle, it is any attempt to raise a crop, be it a crop of children, widgets, or straight A’s, apart from the Son of God who is life and gives life.

The Proverbs text says that the man who gathers by labor will increase, and the Hebrew word for “labor” is literally hand. The point is not that technology is out and you have to build everything manually. The point is that, whatever your particular plow, you do have to put your hand to it. You have to be in the game, in the saddle, tending to the matters at hand.

When you do so, you will be the one who increases. You will be substantial, sturdy like the oak and full of sap.

Jared Longshore – June 23, 2024

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The fifth commandment requires the preserving the honor and performing the duties belonging to everyone, so says the WSC, whether they be our superior, inferior, or equal. Our envious age is violently opposed to the idea of superiors, and we have endured decades of stories and sitcoms where fathers are ridiculed and smart alecks are the heroes. But this was always just a way of flattening the world.

But the real world contains hierarchy and obligations and duty and honor. Our individualistic age would have every man and woman an island, bound to no one. But the word of God says to honor your father and your mother, to give them reverence and to exercise the duties they are owed. God could have made us emerge full grown out of holes in the ground. He could have had us delivered by storks or raised by wolves or dropped unceremoniously from the sky onto something soft. But He didn’t. He ordained it such that every single person comes into the world enmeshed in relationships. We are not free, we are bound, from the very beginning.

Our age wants to have the right to murder unwanted children and ignore or euthanize unwanted parents, but the word of God requires us to joyfully and faithfully accept the bonds of covenantal love.

So children, obey your parents from the heart. Guard their honor. Consider how you speak to your parents, how you speak of your parents, how you are entrusted with your parent’s honor. And you are supposed to guard it, maybe even more than they guard it.

And parents, you have obligations to your children, to nurture and teach and protect and provide and snuggle and to read stories and make forts and feed them and sing with them. And to guard their honor. What does that look like? How do you guard your five year old’s honor? Consider that.

Time fails us to look at the obligations we have to uncles and nephews and younger siblings and grandmothers and third cousins and, zooming out, what we owe to our civil leaders and pastors and to the fathers and mothers in the church. But the point remains: we are bound by God’s good design in a complex tapestry of duties and obligations. Our envious and individualistic age wants to ignore that truth. So don’t.

Joshua Edgren – June 16, 2024

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The temptation for Christians is to think of marriage as a mundane, everyday, ordinary topic about which books and articles and seminars will never end. Give in to that temptation because it is true. The reason so many writers can turn a profit on marriage is twofold. One reason, the true reason, is that marriage is rooted in what Francis Schaeffer calls True Truth.  Marriage reflects a reality that was established by God. The other reason is that marriage involves two beings completely unlike the other and thus, marriage is fraught with problems. This second reason is where the money can be made because every shrink or pastor offers the “solution” to the troubled marriage. And, despite all of this being true, our Holy Scripture calls marriage good. Malachi puts it this way- “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.”

In this exhortation we will approach marriage covenantally. Because our God is a covenantal God, and marriage was His idea after all, given as a good gift to humanity, marriage is therefore covenantal. When two kids around the age of twenty take vows before God and His people how is it that we all can keep a straight face? Think about this- they are barely out of the house that raised them, released to the world to discover what they are made of and… taking lifelong vows is their best and brightest idea? The modern man laughs this all to scorn but what he doesn’t realize is that if the parents have faithfully raised these children in a Godly, covenantal home, then this is the next natural step in their lives. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)

The covenant of marriage is a great protection then for this young couple. And why? Because what they are doing is committing themselves to one another “til death do them part”. This means that no matter the mood swing, haircut, weight gain, change of habit, or attitude they are pledged to do one another good all the days of their life. But far from being “stuck” as some would see this arrangement, what should these godly restraints of commitment do? They should conform us into the image of Christ. Think about Paul’s words in Ephesians 5. In verses 25-31 Paul walks through marriage dynamics and how husband and wife ought to relate to one another. But then in verse 32 he says all of this is actually about Christ and his church. Christ in his life and death, burial and ascension is clearly committed to His bride. He does not abandon her, He does not treat her poorly. Rather, because He loves her he is committed to perfecting her. It is the same for us in our marriages. We have committed ourselves to our spouses. If we do not like something that we see (that is to say, something sinful in their life) we don’t get to hit the eject button. Rather, we who are spiritual ought to restore them. And you can guarantee that this correction is going to flow in your direction as well.

We have already seen that marriage is to be a reflection of Christ and His bride, but what else is marriage for? Scripture says that it is for the procreation of children, sexual delight, and protection against sin. We will handle these in turn. 

We have already seen in our Malachi text that our God is after Godly seed. It is not enough to just be fruitful and multiply though that is certainly part of it. Rather, what our God wants is for Christian parents to raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). This means for you married couples that part of the in-home instruction for your children is for them to see you hugging, kissing, laughing, holding hands and drinking wine together. Why? The answer is so that they have a picture of what Godly marriage looks like. When they are full grown then, they too will know how to walk with their God and their spouse and then, have their own children that they raise up in the Lord. 

Back to the hugging, kissing, and laughing for a moment. Christians have been embarrassed for a long time about what happens behind closed doors all the while pretending that the Bible does not include an entire book about what happens there. The Song of Songs is an erotic love poem and in it we see the sexual relationship unfold between Lover and Beloved. In God’s kindness to us He has given us sexual delight in which married couples return to their garden state of naked and unashamed. And what the couple is doing there in the marriage bed is confirming their covenant before God. The lovemaking taking place is akin to saying “once again, I commit myself, body and soul, to you.” 

Finally, covenantal marriage is a protection for us as we seek to live holy lives. 1 Cor. 7:5 says that satan is seeking to tempt us because of our lack of self control. Paul says because of this reality, do not deprive one another sexually. We can take this principle and expand it though. We ought not to grow distant from our spouse. This means there needs to be regular time spent with and around your spouse. God has given you your spouse to enjoy not only sexually but as your closest companion. Go on walks, hold hands, go on dates and eat and drink together, confide in one another, plan vacations together for the family. Know how she likes her coffee, and know which is his favorite bourbon. The list goes on and the devil hates this kind of fun loving creativity. 

The covenant of marriage contains all sorts of life. It contains delight and sanctification and lots of good stories. Satan would love to rip all of this apart so remember: your spouse is not your enemy. There is a real enemy seeking to destroy the marriage covenant but it is not your spouse. Therefore treat one another with honor, love, and respect and give thanks to the God who gave this wonderful institution to you. 

Joshua Dockter – June 16, 2024

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