INTRODUCTION
Far too many people have a compartmentalized view of the cosmos. We’ve sorted things out, and we want them all to stay put. Butterflies over here. Archangels over there. But we cannot seal off one area of life from another. No matter how imaginative secular man gets, he cannot create a world other than what exists. A world in which Christ is Lord over all.
THE TEXT
1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. […] 1 Peter 3:1ff
SUMMARY OF THE TEXT
Having just pointed to the example of Christ’s patient sufferings, and exhorting servants to endure even cruel masters by imitating Christ, Peter exhorts wives to adopt a similar manner. A wife is to be submissive to her own husband (v1). Even unbelieving husbands can be won over, not by his wife’s nagging, but by her righteous manner; Peter further details what this righteousness looks like in practice: sexual purity braided with reverence (vv1-2). A wife’s primary adornment is the ornamentation of a meek and quiet spirit; in God’s economy such a demeanor is like a set of rare pearls (vv3-4). Peter puts a compelling example before Christian women: their mother in the faith, Sarah, who obeyed Abraham not only in word but also in deed (vv5-6). Women were especially vulnerable in the ancient world. So, as persecution looms on the horizon, Christian women must be fearless (v6, Cf. Pro. 31:25). The last in the household instructions is the husband, or head of household. Men are also to look to Jesus in determining how to conduct themselves. A man’s spiritual resume is primarily evidenced in how he treats his wife. A husband should not merely share the same dwelling as his wife, he must endeavor to know her entirely. Furthermore, he is to honor her by not crushing her with his strength or misusing her by handing over his responsibilities to her. Above all, a husband is to be mindful that she too is a fellow heir of the grace of life. If he neglects this, his prayers will bounce off the ceiling (v7).
The entire congregation should strive to treat one another with remarkable love and considerate courtesy; instead of a retaliatory culture, they must live as those who are to inherit a blessing (vv8-9). To drive all this home, Peter recites a lengthy stretch of Psalm 34, which reminds us that since God has delivered us, we ought to conduct ourselves according to the new life which that deliverance brought about for us (vv10-12). Peter then reiterates his teaching from the previous chapter. Most of the time, doing good is not met with punishment (v13); but if they do suffer for righteousness, they are to remember Christ’s teaching, that immense blessing rests on those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake. Therefore, they must not be fearful (vv13-14, Cf. Mt. 5:10 & 10:28). This way of living is going to raise questions. So, Christians should be prepared to point to the hope they have in Christ, even when condemned as evildoers (vv15-17).
The bulk of Peter’s letter has actually been building up to this teaching on baptism. Christ suffered in your place (atonement), in order to bring you to God (justification); He accomplished this by His crucifixion, whereby our flesh is put to death, and by the Spirit vivifying Jesus, whereby our spirits are made alive (sanctification) (v18). Though Christ, the only innocent man, was cruelly mistreated by both earthly rulers and heavenly principalities, he bore that mistreatment silently (2:22); but after His resurrection He was the thunderous Word. He heralded His conquest to all beings, including the imprisoned souls of those disobedient in the corrupt days of Noah (vv19-20). The water of judgement in Noah’s day was a type of baptism. Baptism saves us. Whereas the Jewish washings cleansed ceremonial uncleanness, baptism stands as a binding oath to God of loyalty; your baptism is to make you conscientious that by the resurrection of Jesus you have entered the new life, the new world, which He has made (v20). Baptism delivers you from the old creation, marked by cruelty and corruption, into a new creation in which Jesus rules in heaven, triumphant over all angels, authorities, and powers (vv21-22).
CHRIST’S SUFFERINGS & YOUR MARRIAGE
Modern women are encouraged to be loud. Loud in their defiance of the patriarchy. Loud in shouting their abortions. Loud in their immodesty. They are encouraged to make their voice heard. All of this is undertaken in order to revolutionize the world. Peter sets before Christian women a model for feminine virtue that offends the modern feminist. First, Christ suffered while entrusting Himself to the justice of God. Second, Sarah, as the mother of faithful women, exemplifies the potency of a wife quietly and respectfully following where her husband leads; she now has daughters spread across the entire world. A wife who is sexually faithful to her husband, diligently reveres him, meekly & quietly goes about doing good in her home without fear is making the most potent statement that can be made. She is stating that her faith and hope are in Christ, who suffered cruelly but is now exalted as judge over all heavenly and earthly authorities. Peter says that this “conversation” speaks volumes, and if her husband is disobedient to the Word, her faithful obedience to the Word might just win her husband to the Word. So then, the challenge to wives of Christian husbands is to reflect on this. If unbelieving husbands can be transformed by the radical and unswerving Christlikeness of a submissive wife, how much more a believing husband?
Husbands are also poignantly challenged here. Peter stresses that a husband should be close to his wife not only in proximity, but in attentiveness. A godly husband is called to intricately know his wife, her needs, and her capacity. He must continually bear in mind that she’s a comparatively weaker vessel; like a porcelain tea set compared to rugged camping gear. You husbands did not marry a man, so do not treat your wife as if she were. Instead, fill her with love. Physical, financial, and spiritual love. If you don’t do this, you are sabotaging your own spiritual authority.
CHRIST’S ASCENSION & YOUR SUFFERINGS
Peter’s teaching on baptism is the crescendo of all his other teachings thus far. Your sufferings at the hand of tyrants, your various duties (citizens, slaves, wives, husbands), are all done in light of not only what Christ accomplished by His sufferings, but in light of the glory which followed His sufferings. In your, you are joined to those sufferings and those glories.
Baptism, Peter asserts, is both a certain deliverance and a certain judgement. To illustrate this, he reminds us of the world before Noah’s flood. The world was full of corrupt men who persecuted Noah. The waters which drowned the men of disobedience also bore up the ark which saved Noah and his family. Peter teaches us that Christ, after being vivified by the Spirit, and before appearing to His disciples, went down into Hades to proclaim His conquest over death and evil. He then ascended and is now seated as Lord over all angelic powers.
By faith in Christ you are saved by this baptism. The salvation is not found in merely the outward sign, Peter cautions. The salvation found in baptism is found in fidelity to what that sign binds you to. You are bound in pledge to Christ the King over all angelic and earthly powers. This has pertinent application in regards to infant baptism. A baptized child is set aside, marked out, and tasked to live as becomes a follower of Christ. He is to grow up breathing the air of repentance and faith, confession of sin and love towards God and His people. Baptism is a pledge to God, and puts you in mind to live as a member of this new creation. As you face suffering and temptation, Peter teaches that baptism is to be a continually comfort in distress and a spur towards righteousness. Are you baptized into Christ? Then all your persecutors are heaping up condemnation upon themselves. Are you baptized? Then live like a citizen of this new creation. Judgement & salvation are both displayed in our baptism. As one writer put it: Baptism is spiritual warfare.
TO BRING YOU TO GOD
All of Christ’s sufferings were undertaken to restore you to God. Of course, as Peter has exhorted, we are to live as a holy nation; but this follows the gracious gift of new life which the Word of Christ has brought about in us. God didn’t spread a feast and then command you to go make for yourself a mouth. Rather, He made a feast and gave you a mouth for the feast. He made marvelous light, and then gave you eyes to see that light. He handed you the gift of Christ, and then gave you hands of faith to receive it all. From first to last Salvation is a gift.
Christ’s gift of salvation leaves no aspect of of the cosmos untouched. Your marriage is not disconnected from Christ’s conquest over fallen angels or corrupt men. Your sufferings are not meaningless. Christ has descended to Hades, and bodily heralded His triumph to the damned. Christ has ascended on high. And by your baptism, Christ brings you through the fiery judgement, and into the new heavens and new earth which He inaugurated.