At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

“The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly” (Proverbs 18:8).

We have a saying that is comparable to this. It takes two people to really hurt you. First, an enemy must say something awful about you, and secondly, a friend must come and tell you about it.

The talebearer’s faulty assumption is that more people need to hear about something than actually do. The distinction between a gossip and a talebearer is a subtle one, and there is some overlap. A gossip is someone who whispers secret and juicy details, and the emphasis is on the secretive nature of the information being shared.

A talebearer is one who circulates the story—he is the distribution platform. When a talebearer is involved, the information may have been secretive early on, but it does not remain that way for long.

A gossip shares the secret with another person. A talebearer goes from person to person. This is why a talebearer is more of a troublemaker—when you get rid of him, the strife goes away (Prov. 26:20). A talebearer reveals secrets while, by way of contrast, an upright person keeps things quiet. The idea is that the talebearer reveals secrets across territory (Prov. 11:13).

And of course, when a faithful man “conceals the matter,” he can always be accused of participating in a cover up. And then that allegation can be industriously circulated.

Coming back to the point of our proverb, a talebearer can circulate the story to all sorts of people, of course. But he can also decide to bring the story to the main character of the story, just to see his reaction. “Did you hear what so-n-so said about you?” All of us need to think twice before engaging in that kind of courier work.

There really is a temptation that the talebearer faces, which is the idea of promoting an approach that says, “let’s you and him fight.”

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At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

“Whoso rewardeth evil for good, evil shall not depart from his house” (Proverbs 17:13).

This proverb is a solemn warning against the sin of treachery. The set up is that someone has done someone else some good, and the second person repays that kindness with evil. What happens then?

Well, the treacherous person goes home, and when he walks through the front door he soon discovers that there is a snake in his house. The fact that he is that snake does not alter the fact that there is indeed a snake in the house now. Wherever you go, there you are.

As long as he is in his house, then evil will not depart from it . . . because he is that evil. His punishment is that he has to go through life being . . . him.

Not only is there evil in his house because he is there, following closely after him will be the consequences of being treacherous. Treachery is not a barren sin; it produces many litters of many puppies.

The fact of your treachery gets around, and so no one trusts you with anything. In addition, others feel free to be treacherous toward you because your behavior has indicated that you believe such conduct to be just fine. Your reputation has been sullied, and the Bible teaches that a good name is to be preferred to great riches (Prov. 22:1). To be respected in your own home is a priceless treasure, but disrespect is natural now because other family members have had to partake of the shame.

All of this is true, and then some, if the treachery has been treachery against the home itself—whether through adultery, or porn, or financial dishonesty.

It would seem that there is no way out. And while it is quite true that carnal wisdom can find no way out, it is not true that that is no way out. What is impossible for men is possible for God.

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At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

“Better is little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble therewith” (Proverbs 15:16).

We should first address the teaching of this proverb, which is quite straightforward, and secondly, we should look at the method of reasoning.

A man should prefer to be poor and one who fears God, on the one hand, than to be a very rich man who has abundant wealth alongside abundant troubles. When God gives wealth for blessing, He gives the ability to enjoy that wealth alongside the wealth. When God grants wealth apart from the spiritual resources to enjoy it, the net result is not a blessing at all. “And he gave them their request; But sent leanness into their soul” (Psalm 106:15).

Think about it. What would you rather have? A world class chef, a high end kitchen, a full pantry, a huge rack of exotic spices, imported wines, and rich desserts . . . and no taste buds, or a bag of baby carrots and the ability to taste them?

As we have gone through the book of Proverbs, we have had occasion to remark many times on this distinctively biblical approach to keeping your priorities where they ought to be.

The method of reasoning is this: it is better to have X and not Y than to have not X and Y. This presents us with two options, even though we recognize that logically there are four options. You could have both X and Y, and you might miss out on both. But the way Proverbs presents the choice helps us to rank things the way we should.

It is better to be poor and good looking than to be rich and ugly. If we rush to say that what we really want is to be rich and good looking, we are missing the point of the lesson. And if people who reason that way wind up both poor and ugly . . . well, we tried to warn them.

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At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)

“In the house of the righteous is much treasure: But in the revenues of the wicked is trouble” (Prov. 15:6).

This is a proverb that envisions the righteous and the wicked both having resources. But it is apparent that they have and hold them quite differently.

The way the contrast is set up, the righteous have “much treasure,” and this treasure is contained in the “house of the righteous.” When the contrast is made with the revenue of the wicked, which contains a bunch of “trouble,” we can see the point of comparison. The wicked have revenue and trouble, and the righteous have treasure, and it is treasure that is trouble-free. It is treasure all the way down.

We see this principle elsewhere in Proverbs:
“The blessing of the Lord, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it” (Proverbs 10:22).
Just as a liar has to have a very good memory because the tale gets more and more complicated as he goes on, so also the revenue of the wicked, dependent as it is upon shady deals, false weights and measures, not to mention various forms of ambiguity, is a rich reservoir of troubles.

Because the wicked are driven by an irrational lust, the troubles are thought to be the cost of doing business. Rather than give up the revenue, they will continue to budget for the troubles—and of course, blaming everybody else for them.

In contrast, the righteous are enabled by the grace of God to simply enjoy what they have, whether their treasures are large or small. Paul had learned the secret of contentment, whether full or hungry, whether abounding or going without. In this condition, whatever he had, it was good all the way to the bottom of the cup.

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