At thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore (Ps. 16: 11)
A foolish son is the calamity of his father: And the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
Proverbs 19:13
Because we live in egalitarian times, we don’t really know what to do with the doctrine of sin. And because we don’t know what to do with sin, we don’t understand the fact that at the very beginning of human history, God established a foundational antithesis between the seed of the woman and the seed of the serpent (Gen. 3:15). Because of this antithesis, this natural antipathy, every generation sees a standing contrast between righteousness and unrighteousness, between wisdom and folly, between holiness and iniquity.
This means that things can go wrong anywhere, and this includes a man’s family or household. Our proverb says that a foolish son is a man’s calamity, and that an ornery wife is a constant drip drip drip.
The Bible teaches that children are a blessing, and they should be received as such. But they are not an automatic blessing. The man who marries does well, but he is not blessed automatically. In other words, when great blessings go wrong, or when potential blessings fail to materialize, the effect is worse than the way it was before. It would better to have no sons than to have one foolish one, and it would be better to have one foolish son than five foolish sons. But people who make “family” the standard can’t understand this. No, the traditional family at its best is what it is because it is under a standard, that standard being the authority of God’s Word.
So then, it would have been better to remain unmarried than to marry a shrew.
But because of our egalitarian times, any statement like this is taken (dishonestly) as an attack on women generally. But when Scripture says something blunt like this about foolish women, this is not an attack on wise women. How could it be? And the women who represent it as a “misogynistic” sentiment are—wait for it—the foolish women that Scripture warns us about. If a woman is a constant drip drip drip in online discussions, the effect is not calculated to make all the gents in that thread think something like, “Boy, I wish I was married to that.”
