Introduction
Too often Christians oppose grace and obedience, gospel and good works. While we certainly are not saved by our good works or obedience, we are saved for obedience (Eph. 2:8-10). The gospel, rightly understood, truly renews people, making them zealous for good works, working in them the love of obedience.
The Text: “… For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in this present world…” (Tit. 2:1-4).
Summary of the Text
Paul exhorts Pastor Titus to teach those things which are “fitting” for sound doctrine (Tit. 2:1). What does he mean? He means instructing old and young, men and women, and even servants to be full of virtue and obedience in the details, “that the word of God be not blasphemed,” that they “may adorn the doctrine of God our Savior in all things” (Tit. 2:2-10). Why? Because the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared (Tit. 2:11). But not only has it appeared, but that same gospel teaches sinners to repent of their sins and live soberly, righteously, and godly in this world (Tit. 2:12). How does the gospel teach and instruct? By pointing to our blessed hope: the glorious appearing of Christ, who gave Himself for us that He might deliver us from sin and purify us and make us zealous for good works (Tit. 2:13-14). In other words, disobedience is an ugly, blasphemous lie about the gospel.
Living Sacrifices
The Bible teaches that outside of Christ, true obedience to God from the heart is impossible. Outside of Christ, man is a slave to sin, and therefore for him, gospel obedience is a grievous burden and the aroma of death (Rom. 6:16, 2 Cor. 2:16). But in Christ, the good news is not only redemption and forgiveness but also a new heart that wants to obey the doctrine of Christ (Rom. 6:17), zealous for good works (Tit. 2:14), presenting our bodies as living sacrifices of praise for His great grace (Rom. 12:1). This is nothing less than loving God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength, and our neighbors as ourselves (Mt. 12:33). This obedience is offering all that we are, all the time, right away, all the way, and cheerfully to the Lord, and all of that would still only be our bare duty, as unprofitable servants, for our great salvation (cf. Lk. 17:10).
Loving the Standard
Gospel obedience loves the law of God and loves His standard because Christ is the standard in flesh. He is the Law-Word made flesh. We love God’s way because Christ Jesus is God’s way. Gospel obedience is zealous for good works because its eyes are fixed on Jesus “Who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto Himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works” (Tit. 2:14). Gospel obedience is like Peter walking on water: so long as our eyes are fixed on Jesus, it is an overflow of gratitude and faith and love. But if you start looking down at the wind and the waves, at your own abilities, at all the trouble in this world, you will begin to sink.
We are called to perfection (as our Father in Heaven is perfect), and the gospel is God’s solemn promise that He will accomplish that goal in you. Like a kid playing his favorite sport in the backyard, picturing his hero’s excellence, we are to love obedience because it is the obedience of our Hero, our Savior. So our goal in our families is a culture of loving the standard, not a cranky perfectionism but a joyful, persistent faith that constantly aims at His holiness, while quickly repenting of sin. We get to walk on the water with Him. And Your Father is well-pleased with every faltering attempt, and therefore you must be too.
Applications
Practicing Walking on Water
The central command given to children is to obey their parents in the Lord, which is based on the first command with a promise, that it may go well with you in the land (Eph. 6:1-3).
This command is given to children, and parents (fathers in particular) are assigned the task of teaching this obedience: “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Eph. 6:4). So the obedience of parents is teaching and training children, and the obedience of children is heeding that instruction. But everyone must obey, and obedience is right away, all the way, and cheerful.
Slow obedience is disobedience. Incomplete obedience is disobedience. Grumpy, complaining, eye-rolling obedience is disobedience. This applies to both parents and children. And remember: “Brethren, if a man is overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such a one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted” (Gal. 6:1).
The Gospel Grace of Discipline
In Hebrews 12, it says that God disciplines His sons because He loves them and wants them to run the race of obedience even more faithfully, keeping their eyes fixed on Jesus. In other words, God the Father’s discipline of us is part of His gospel grace.
So this is the model for discipline for Christian families. Parents are to discipline and require obedience of their children in gospel grace. Think of Jesus knocking Saul to the ground on the road to Damascus and blinding him: that was a gospel chastening (painful for the present but afterward yielded the peaceable fruit of righteousness).
Chastening includes lots of teaching and admonition, but also the rod of correction. “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him” (Prov. 13:24, ESV). “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him” (Prov. 22:15). “Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell” (Prov. 23:14). By faith, discipline is a great gospel grace.
The gospel is the good news that God has crucified us with Christ, so that by dying in Him, we might rise to newness of life, zealous for obedience (Rom. 6:3-11ff).